Red pill for successful career and magic stick for happiness …

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Do you want to become the best ever public speaker, solve all your issues with time management, make your team love you or increase sales by 200 %…?  No problem, there are super-puper- mega trainings, seminars and master classes that will immediately change your life in 4 hours or, let’s say maximum 5 days!

When you see a super-confident person (especially if they are dressed well and are good looking) saying they will share their secrets of success or help you become the best of the best, the temptation is too big to simply run for it and say “I want this”. Perhaps it’s our inner child that so much wants to believe in magic, but for sure at those moments we truly believe or hope that there is the magic stick that will change us and our lives in couple of hours. And who said we don’t believe in Santa anymore? ))

We all want results: cheap, quality and yesterday! We all strive for efficiency and yet, here’s the paradox, people buy these “magic stick”, choosing to have the illusion of efficiency and escaping from real growth patterns, which might be more difficult to address.

In this everyday “rat race” we choose quick solutions and don’t want to face the truth, we might spend our time and money to listen to someone else’s secrets of success (that do not always work when copy-pasted), rather than going into a meaningful discussion or self-reflection.

As for us though  the illusion in a nice packaging looks good, but we still enjoy the challenge of in-depth growth. We do choose to grow in an ORGANIC way.

What happinness is…

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Once upon a time there lived two ordinary girls who were looking for an oridnary happinness in their lives.

But wait a minute, may be starting sentence ( therefore a life?) like as if its a fairy tale is already a mistake?

Or…let’s say if we start it like a fairy tale then the happinness must come right after the wedding somewhere in the middle of their lives  and the story should end  there.?  After all, ” …. they lived happily ever after”   doesn’t say much about  the type, qaulity and quantity of  the happinness happened.

In faily tales, meeting your second half is already happinness so the question is why don’t we stop striving for ” more” happinness all the time?  What if happinness is somehow overrated in our realities?  And what happinness is?

Is it a collection of happy moments? Is it a state of mind? Is it just  being grateful for what you have?

Does happinness consists of different elements and it doesn’t work without any of them or it’s just one thing out of many that can make you happy?

Can you measure happinneess? If yes, how do you measure it? Do you set it for yourself or there are universal happinness measurement index that everyone strives to measure up with?

And finally, is it continuos thing or just a flash?

what makes a great learning environment?

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We’ve been at TEDxYerevan today  and while listening to the great speakers I had a side thought about what makes this place and environment special in terms of learning?

And then my thought went broader and more and more questions started to whirl around:  what makes a great learning environment? when people learn best? when and where do they study best?  what makes them share more ideas in a more generous way? what makes the best environment for idea generation?

I have tried to recall all the places and meetings where my own ” learning cakra” was open and strangely I could recall 2 controversial types of places that helped me learn.

So the first type of place is a space with lots of DIFFERENT PEOPLE who are buzzing around with their ideas, with a SPACE that you can make it our own in a creative way ( visuals, colors), with a TECHNOLOGY or INFRASTRUCTURE and TOOLS that help you think in a different way or out-of -the -box, with beautiful NATURE around and HOSTS. In this kind of a place, if the hosts and audience co-create atmosphere of trust and sharing and vulnerability in a good sense, then you simply have self-driven beautiful community of people learning at the speed of light. If you add to this diversity and encouragement ( like at TED, when speakers make their points and audience go clapping or feel connected and you hear things like ” exactly”, ” you read my mind”, ” wow”.. )  + admission for the mistakes or ” stupid questions without any judgment” – then you just have it, the perfect place for all of the things to happen.

But then, there is the  other space that I could think of that creates that wonderful amazing learning experience and that place is ….toilet room.

I mean, I know it sounds weird but I am sure I am not alone in ” going to toilet” for reading, studying and idea generation. Now, toilet doesn’t have all of that magical moments and infrastructure and technology and facilitators but still, that’s a magical place for ideas to come.

So what makes toilet so insightful?  I thought may be  Its because it’s the place where you can be yourself and that what makes it so similar to the 1st type of a place no matter the absence of helping tools. May be it’s because the shame feeling goes down? after all, it’s a closed space, with a lot of privacy where you can be totally naked literally and therefore metaphorically as well? may be it’s also because the output that we suppose to produce in toilet is never being judged?

If my hypothesis is correct then what could have we become if we remove shame as a blocking unnecessary item from our lives and lives of our circle of influence?

Just a thought…

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are we grateful for what we have?

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“The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage literally had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, this definition has actually changed, and today, courage is synonymous with being heroic or performing brave deeds.

Heroics and bravery are important, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we and about our experiences (good and bad) is the ultimate act of courage. Heroics is often about putting your life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting your vulnerability on the line. In today’s world, that’s pretty extraordinary.

For me, practicing ordinary courage means telling my story with all of my heart.” Brene Brown
Here is an example of pure courage , vulnerability, being strong and grateful..
Are we grateful for what we have?