about motivation

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There are tons of theories, books and insight about what motivation is and where does it come from, however when it comes to every day life  it’s not so often when we think/analyze over the reasons of why suddenly something that has been so appealing, so interesting to us suddenly looses its attractiveness.

In fact, the same happens with motivation – once we get excited about something we do not think much why, what exactly motivates us to do certain things.

My small personal insight today is that if we do not track our motivation/demotivation causes then we probably do not monitor our motivation level throughout the process as we are not much aware of what should we monitor. In its turn, if we do not monitor it – we can not act fast to change the situation in case we need, this is why when demotivation comes and we suddenly feel no energy for doing something we were so keen to do we get so surprised.

To support this idea I made a small exercise thinking why do people choose to be involved in any kind of work and got a small model for myself.

 

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So, here it is – people choose to be involved in a certain process based on these criteria and if at least they sense  2 – 3 elements are available , then it seems attractive/worthy to be involved.

However, your life context usually makes availability of certain element the most important decision making factor – and even sometimes even if all of other elements are missing still there is enough energy to do the job just because the priority element is present and vice versa, even if all the elements are in place while the most needed one is absent your motivation and therefore involvement level drastically goes down.

I am curious to know – what is your current driver of motivation?

 

 

 

what if we were less fear-driven?

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How do we get to the point of having a society of  uncofident, people with low-self-esteem, “i can’t do it  and who am I to succeed “attitude? Where are the root  of the problem hidden?

We are used to be ” assessed and compared” and then ” compared and assessed” and then it goes like a ritual druing the whole life. ( from birth: comapring weight of baby with the standarts, comparing who can read/write at the age of 5 and who can not, school entry exam, tests, tests, exams, tests,  University exams ( OMG), inteview – IQ test, assessments, auditions, certifications….)

What is the price we pay for adopting this policy?

“Can you please assess me? Can you please tell me how good am I doing? Can you please tell me where do I stand in comparison to others?  Am I smart enough? How smart am I?  Who is smarter than me? What is your opinion about me?”

How many kids at the age of 10-11 ( !!!) are asking those questions to themselves and their “authorities” like parents, teachers, mentors etc… How many of them are being diminished by others and then getting used to that feeling so much that they continue diminshing themselves by habit and playing small just cause they were convinced they ARE small?

What kind of individuals we as a society inherit then?  If we were a big coporation we could have had a mission  like ” We sustainably enable the specific lfe journeys full of judgement so that we produce and deliver high numbers  of clients for psycologist and life coaches. Individual by individual, generation by generation – we guarantee…. ”

I have a question… ( not a dream, gentlemen, I can’t have a dream as accordint to  hgh-class experts dreaming is something infantile, loosers have a dream, winners  have a goal).  And because I dont want to have a goal ( I am somehow sick and tired of having SMART goals), I am at least not deprvied of having questions.

So my questions are:

-Who could we become if the school teachers would be taught first how to give  students wings to fly, how to appreciate oneself, how to find oneself beautiful?

-What if schools had  “no judgement” policy?

-How would  the school Wall of Honours look like then ? (may be we could have the picture of every kid on the wall with the title” we are honoured and humble you choose us to serve you? “)

– What kind of individuals would ran our world then?

Who could we become if we  liberate oursleves, our kids, our parents, our employees, our teachers from that genetic flaw of judgement?

Do you love life as much as it worth it?

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Do you love life as much as it worth it?

http://www.buzzfeed.com/theloveguru/levon-a-wondrous-life-hv1d

What could we have achieved if we were not afraid? How many times in life we stepped back or just let go things we really wanted just because of the fear .. Sometimes  fear is really vital for us, its the basic instinct that comes from experience and intuition… but what if we dechifer our experience in a wrong way and generate wrong ” set of fears”? What if our exepriences many times giving us homework which we fail to understand and learn lessons from?

We are wishing you fearless Christmas and Happy New Growth!

when was the last time you did something for the first time?

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This is exactly what we are doing for the first time… we have started our first company…It feels amazing; a mixture of sensitivity, joy, a bit of fear, butterflies in our stomacsh… a lot of people would confirm that starting your first company is like giving birth to your first child…It feels like its a magic and it really feels warm. It feels home…. on this first day of our first ever joint blog we just want to say we are grateful for this amazing place where life brought us. Let’s start 2 grow together998107_10151569267367186_2075678682_n.